Today’s post is Part 1 of Assertiveness and Energetic Boundaries for Lightworkers! This is a two-part training. In the first part, I am going to talk about assertiveness skills and how these will make your relationships and/or business flourish. The second part is about creating energetic boundaries in your business and personal life.
If you feel your purpose here is huge, but you keep yourself small by worrying about “stupid” stuff, this is for you. If you want help creating boundaries in your business and personal life, so you can flourish, this is definitely for you. If you are an empath who carries around the problems of other people and the world, this is also for you. I am going to give you some tools to protect yourself and gain greater energetic boundaries, so in turn, you can be even more helpful to those you love.
Click the link below to watch the video, or just keep reading!
I am going to be real here. I have a co-dependent personality. I have never been good at boundaries. I have NEVER been good at assertiveness. It is a skill I had to learn and still must work on. The reason I had to learn it is because the habit of taking on the world’s pain did not just inconvenience me in my life. It literally almost killed me. More about that in Part 2…
Would you be surprised to know that I used to HATE pictures of myself? I would never smile for a camera. I would NEVER put myself on video. How things change when you look through a different lens.
Onward to assertiveness….
This subject goes perfectly with the recent full moon which was all about going out and getting what you want. It was about the masculine energy of doing and acting on your dreams.
Assertiveness is something with many lightworkers (a light worker is anyone who helps others in their career or personal life) struggle. We tend to be very “nice”. We do not want to ruffle feathers. We avoid confrontation.
The problem is, you cannot just sweep negative feelings under the rug. It does not work that way. If you feel you have been wronged, you need to express it, so you can release it, and then heal from it.
Assertiveness is standing up for yourself while respecting the rights of others. It is an art. When you are assertive, you are in control. I am going to tell you the only tool you need in order to be assertive. It seems counterintuitive, but here it is….love.
“When I am in alignment with the love of The Universe, peace cannot be disrupted.” Gabby Bernstein
If you feel you have been wronged by someone, send that person love. You do not have to understand it. You just have to send love. This takes strength. Please understand, this is not to help the other person. It is to help yourself. If you truly energetically sent that person love, then when you tell the other person “I need to talk to you about something,” you are in control. You will be able to stay calm and express yourself. You will leave the confrontation feeling better and not worse.
Below are my three steps to assertiveness:
- Energetically send that person love. The more negativity you feel toward that person, the more love you must send.
- Visualize how you want to feel when you leave the interaction. Do you want to feel freedom? Do you want to feel a release? Do you want to feel understood? Do you want to feel in control?
- Do not expect perfection from either of you. You might not stand up for yourself in the perfect way. You are still learning. And the other person might not respond to you the exact way you want him/her too. In fact, he/she probably won’t. That is okay. The purpose of the interaction is to free the negative energy. That can be messy, but you come out the other side stronger, lighter, and with new freedom that would have never come from sweeping it under the rug.
Please comment below and let me know if you have any questions about this topic! Or let me know how this goes for you! And stay tuned for next week! It’s going to be really good, and I’m going to get very real and vulnerable speaking about energetic boundaries.
Please contact me if you want more help and would like to work with me one-on-one on assertiveness skills! All of your information on this form is private!
In the meantime, check out this short video I did (on assertiveness) on the new IG TV while I was in Portland, Oregon! It also has a small quiz in it to see if you are an earth angel. Just click the link below!
Peace and Love,
P.S. I was gone last week, because I was at my stepdaughter’s beautiful wedding in Portland, Oregon. Check out some of the pics below! Love is all you need! And love to you all!