It is totally possible to have the type of life you want.
What kind of lifestyle do you want? How do you want to feel most of the time?
It’s literally completely possible.
Making a simple, subtle, yet enormously profound shift can change everything.
Knowing what your values are will change your life. It changes how you experience the world and other people. If you are not aware of what you value, the quality of your life suffers.
For example, my core values are: peacefulness, abundance, connection, and spirituality. (Chosen from the 4 page values list from the book Declutter Your Mind by S.J. Scott and Barrie Davenport). Peacefulness, abundance, connection, and spirituality are qualities I look for and find in the world and in other people.
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Here’s the hard truth: If you are not finding what you want in this world, it is perhaps because you are valuing the wrong things.
Here’s the deal, there are bad things that happen in this world. I do not deny that. There are negative things about all human beings. We are all here to work out our flaws and heal our wounds. So yes, there is negativity and evil in the world, but we do not have to give it so much power. My belief is that love is the ultimate power, and love always ultimately prevails.
I talk openly about my experience with pretty severe anxiety and depression in my life. When I was diagnosed by a therapist or psychiatrist with an anxiety or depressive disorder, that is the lens through which I saw the world. I told myself, “I have anxiety. I have all these fears. I’m a mess.” I could spot anxiety in others a mile away. I could see their fears. I could see where they were broken. And this actually helped me as a therapist. I could tell what needed to be fixed.
But what I did not realize at the time was that I was valuing anxiety. I valued my anxiety. Back then, if I would have given you a values list, it would have been “anxiety, fear, limits, lack, separation…” you get the picture. It is not that I would have literally listed those as values, but I might as well have. That was how I was living my life. That is what I experienced, so that is what I valued.
Realizing this has been so freeing for me. I get to choose what I value, and it can totally transform how I experience life. I give more power to what I want instead of what I don’t want.
If I don’t want anxiety, then why don’t I start valuing peacefulness? Why don’t I research methods to get more peaceful and figure out how to bring more of it into my life? Why don’t I let go of any “diagnosis” I was ever given?
Well I have, and it is wonderful. I am free.
You are free too. I highly recommend getting the book Declutter Your Mind by S.J. Scott and Barrie Davenport and picking out 4 core values that you want in your life. Know that if you are feeling off, it means you are valuing the wrong thing.
It will help you stop seeing the flaws in others and start bringing out the goodness in others. It will help you let go of what you need and want to let go. It will help you start living in this world as you want to live. It will help you focus your mind on what you want out of your mind.
Value Peace and Love,