Do you feel mostly peaceful about family gatherings, but there is still just this one person who triggers the crap out of you? Or are you just constantly being triggered in family gatherings? If either of the above is true for you, then this blog and video is for you. If there is someone you are struggling to forgive or feel loving kindness towards, keep reading.
This morning I woke up and read the lesson from A Course in Miracles, “I do not perceive my own best interests.”
Whoa, it’s still like I’m reading it for the very first time.
“In no situation that arises do you realize the outcome the would make you happy.” A Course in Miracles
Our true and highest selves do perceive our own best interests. The triggered-self does not. By definition, when you are triggered, you are reacting to the past. This obviously means the triggered-you is not in the present. And also, by definition, those who have known us the longest (usually our families) can trigger us into the past. It’s not their fault. It’s your responsibility to heal if it comes up. Their healing will be mirrored in yours. It’s all ultimately the same, because we are all One.
“If you realized that you do not perceive your own best interests, you could be taught what they are.” A Course in Miracles
If you watch the below video, I do a Loving Kindness Meditation that helps to connect you with your higher self, so you can forgive appropriately and arrive in the present moment where you can better perceive your own best interests.
Remember forgiveness does not mean what the other person did was right, it just means you are ready to be free of it.
If you treat the meditation like a fun, little, concept, that is the power it will have in your life. If you treat it as powerful, magical, truth, that is the power it will have.
My favorite part of this A Course in Miracles lessons is when it asks us to sit and search our mind for “unresolved situations about which you are currently concerned. The emphasis should be on uncovering the outcome you want. You will quickly realize you have a number of goals in mind as part of the desired outcome, and also that these goals are on different levels and often conflict.”
So the purpose here is to get all of you (subconscious, conscious) on board with what you truly want. For example, if you want a fun and closer relationship with that person, how are you holding that person to the past? Are you complaining about that person? What do you do that conflicts with this desired outcome?
You have to be willing to not be right. That is when God/The Universe can get to work.
In the video, I walk you through a loving kindness meditation that has the following mantra:
May I/you be well.
May I/you be peaceful.
May I/you live your life with ease.
Another’s healing is your healing. The planet’s healing is your healing.
If you are triggered this holiday, try giving this situation up to a higher power knowing that you can’t possibly perceive your own best interests in your triggered state. Get curious about what you really want in this relationship. This is a question we don’t ask ourselves enough.
What do you want? What do you truly want? Try asking The Univserse.
And ask yourself this everyday. What do I want in this situation? Get more clear on the outcome you truly want. The Universe takes care of the how.
Be open for an answer. You might not know the exact answer from your triggered place, but if you ask your guides/angels/holy spirit/higher self for help, you will be guided.
May you be well.
May you be peaceful.
May you live your life with ease this holiday season.
All my loving,
Your Fab Life Coach,